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Subject: Desperately in need of emotional help...
Posted by Katherine
Friday, October 03, 2003 at 00:37:56
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Hi i am in desperate in need of emotional help.i did everything i don't know what to do next,i don't want to give up now.I am 28 yrs old and 2 yrs ago i met this guy and we were going out for a long time,he was incredibel i considered myself so lucky for fimding him,he was great,is great.Last year on May 15 he proposed to me and asked me to marry him and he arranged the most wonderful and unforgetable night...I said yes and agreed to marry him,i was so happy we went to my familys house and celebrated it.We arraged everything we closed the restaurant and church where we would get married everything was done.Four(4) months ago vey suddenly we woke up in the morning and Paul (his name)just came up to me and told me that he wanted some time alone...I could't beleive what he said my heart at that time broke in little peices,i was shocked cause it was the only thing that i wasn't waiting for ever.And so i left our house where we were living together and made,paint,decorate,together our dog our God child (Pauls sisters baby) and went to another city to my moms house.I was so depressed crying day-night wasn't eating nothing lost 20kl.in i month and only knew to smoke NOTHING else.Two(2) months later i found out that he was with another girl,i couldn't beleive it he told me he wanted to be alone we cancelled EVERYTHING,we planned for that and now he is with someone else,again i fell into depression,my mom and 2 sisters were also very sad for loosing him cause they really loved him to.I tryed talking to him,calling him i tryed everything and he doesn't want to see me,it's like he hates me for no reason i don't see this at all normal i think someone must of cursed him cause this is not the Pauli i knew,we were suppost to be getting married on 11-October-2003 and now he went for vacation to Enland with his new girlfriend and they are living together.He sent me a message 2 weeks ago telling me that he found someone new and that they were going out for 2 months and that she is great and that he loves her and told me to respect that.RESPECT that i always respected him i moved out of our house so that he wouln't have to i left him everything in the house so that it wouln't be hard gor him my dog God child everything so it would be easy for him,soon i found out he had a girlfriend i never called or messaged him again,i see him with her and i turn the other way and walk away so that it won't be hard for him,and now he tells me to respect that??i don't get it what else could of i done?I don;t hate him for whatever he has done to me i still love him very mush cause he was really my soulmate and i his we both really beleive that cause the way we met explains it all.One(1)week ago he sent me a message that he loved,loves and will always love me and that no-one can ever take my place and that i was his his onlt soulmate,and that my mark will be on him forever.....I don't get it first he writs me to respect him and e.t.c.and 1 week later he writes me that?Why?does anybodt understand?and now he went with her to England and is coming back in a couple days.Please i am asking for help until now i was bymyself and now i have no more strenth and don't know what else to do,please if anyone can help me find a solution,and maybe a way that i can get my fiance back please help....Thank you all for your time.God bless you all.Love Katherine Cyprus (island)But born and raised in Canada..
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Posted by Jenny
Sunday, October 05, 2003 at 17:00:08
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I can sense what your feeling,please don't feel frightend i'm here to help you, I know what it feels like when a boyfreind dosen't love you,for you. There are Loving angels around you, right now..close your eyes..feel their love for you...let go of all of your worries,feel your angel wrapping you up in it's wings,you are cradeled in her arms,feel her warmth,...her love....I worked with angels for 7 years please post on the angelic gifts forum if you have any more problems love&light Jenny
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Posted by Katherine
Sunday, October 19, 2003 at 23:29:22
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Hi Jenny thank you for your reply,and sorry for being late of answering you.Thank you for offering for your help i will really appreiciate your help cause i really need it.If you really see my angels please ask them if they can help me cause ireally need there help cause i don't know what else to do i want my fiance back so bad i really love him and we both know that we are each otheres soul mates,i can not get over him and i jknow he wants to be with me and i heard that some one made a curse on him and it is the girl that is with him now with her mother,and tha is why he left me and went with her,he is not thinking right and doing things without thinking cause the spell they made on him made him not think right.Please i am begging you if yoyu know a way to help me,help him get over this and help him come to his sences just like beforwe.Thank you and looking forward to your reply,God Bless you,Katherine!!
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Posted by jonny
Sunday, May 09, 2004 at 10:37:02
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Just surfin the net ..found this story , i'd like to know how you are now ? but i can imagine if you are 28 and this happend October 2003 , then things got better for you emotionally in janaury 2004 , but you still felt the pain until last week ....( i hope not - and really hope you got yourself together sooner ) if i am right then its simple astrology, you are obviously very very sensitive soul and the astrological backward motion has affected you .... The planets are all moving forward now ..so things should get better ...
However i must add , the key word of your sincere letter was the fact that you were born in Cyprus and live in canada .
I am studying the effects of parents moving on childrens energy . i have seen in most cases that sensitive children have a "messed up" emotional life because their parents leave their real home" Just think about Cyprus ...does it make you feel good ? ( i am NOT saying you have to return home...its just you may have emotioanl support and strength just thinking about a place you are connected with ....)
Let me know ....please jonny@gilgulim.com in UK London ( also witha messed up love life and in search of a soulmate !!!!)
Good luck ...Bon Chance ....
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Posted by Mary Ann Rao
Saturday, October 23, 2004 at 20:14:38
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Hi Jenny, I think you need to get your Concentraition back. This will pass only when you let it. God will send you someone who will treat you better than this guy. You deserve it. Love Mare
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Posted by marg
Saturday, August 06, 2005 at 18:16:24
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ok, look lady. you are your own person. dependence on someone else is completely pointless. you dont need for someone to be your reason to live. dont be an stupid.
YOU DONT NEED OTHER PEOPLE TO BE HAPPY.
you were born into this world without him and the moment that you were detached form your mother was the moment that you became dependent on yourself. you are a grown woman, you dont need someone to feed, bathe, and shelter you. youre perfectly capable on your own. so please, dont be stupid. its like those women who get abused but theyre afraid to leave their parteners because they dont think they can live on their own. DONT BE THAT WOMAN.
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Posted by venus
Friday, December 30, 2005 at 11:57:42
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hi....i am sosorry about all that has happened to you. i know you must feel like the world has just dropped from under your feet, but maybe he isn't the man god intended for you to share your life with. I understand you love him and maybe you two did have many wonderful moments together, but what kind of man would do the things he has done to you? how can you ever trust a man like this. his ways are very unstable and he does not seem like husband material for you. I know it is hard but you need to move on with your life. It appears he needs much mental counseling to find out why he let things progress as far as they did between you two and then dropped such a nasty bombshell on you? You sound like a beautiful person and i believe there is a true soulmate for everyone, but frankly he is not the one you need. you deserve so much better and i know you will find it. time is a healer of all wounds and when things hurt less and your heart has healed, you will beable to look back and be thankful this man is not a part of your life. You are the lucky one. The other woman better watch out because believe me...her time is coming and he will do the same to her!!!
Good luck sweety and i will keep you in my prayers
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Posted by Phil
Saturday, January 21, 2006 at 23:42:58
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Hi, I am hoping to get your thoughts on this. I am a male and also experiencing something similar. I got divorced after 14 years because my wife was having an affair. Shortly after the divorce I met my soul mate. She was absolutely the most incredible girl ever! The problem is that she was an accuatance of my ex-wife and I have to assume that she felt like she was doing something wrong so I eventually lost her. I have done everything possible to get her back and have failed. We have not been together for over a year now. My problem is I still think about her everyday. I just found out she has met another guy and is very happy. I truely am very depressed and find all hope for the future diminishing. I am normally a very strong person but I find myself not being able to pull through this. Any help or advise would be greatly appreciated. Thank you so much.
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Posted by Dan
Tuesday, February 28, 2006 at 10:59:28
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I am a 37 year old man who has gone through a similar experience over the last 2.5 years. I met my friend while walking down the street after a run. I was awe struck and never knew that I was gay. Low an behold, we met when my cell phone went dead as I walked by and he offered me his. We dated for about 6 months and I told my family after just 2 months of meeting him about me. Well, over the last 2 years, hea has given me false hopes and beliefs with statements like, "you never know" and naming his pets after me, putting on a porn in my presence, and giving me a CD for my birthday with "come back to me songs" and "I made a mistake type" lyrics. This all very recently, since I met someone else. Now, after a few months of getting together for Dinner and runs and meeting my friends, he says he is not interested in me as a lover or boyfriend, but as a friend, but he does find some of my friends interesting and potential dates. I am a very attractive and succeful man with a lot to offer. I am a nice guy too. I have prayed to God for help and have exhausted all family and friends as to what to do. I love hom very much and have moved on to an extent. He is fully aware that I love him, as I have told him I am noit able to move forward in other relationships because the thought of him always stops me in my tracks. His response when confonted about the "games" he has most recently played is that he has no idea what I am talking about and there is no hidden messages or agenda. Yet, he has come into my life again " as a friend" interested in "my friends". I confirmed this when i asked home directly. I really do love him and have literally changed my life for him, and deep down inside I know he has feelings for me, but why is he so interested in making me believe that he just wants my friendship. When asked he explained that since I was in a relationship now, he felt it was time to be friends, but if that was a concern of his then why name his pet after me, why turn on a porn in our presence together alone and then shut it off after 15 minutes after nothing happened and then give me a "mushy love CD" for my birthday. Why, if he was concerned about being my friend when I wasn't in a relationship, would he now do these things and say "there is no hidden meaning" in those things. I feel he is pulling my heart strings and for some reason wants to destroy me. I need som e help with this because I know he has a good heart but why does he want to do this and play these games.
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Posted by tamser
Wednesday, March 01, 2006 at 21:22:03
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Dan,
It sounds to me like this man came back into your life for two reasons. 1. He enjoys the attention he gets from you enough that he will hang around but not get involved and 2. He likes the opportunity of meeting your friends with the intent of being involved with them. You may be a person who bends over backwards for him and he enjoys the 'no strings attached' support you give him but look at this for what it really is; he clearly has no interest in a relationship with you but gives you just enough to make you think there's a chance. This is obviously ripping apart your life; your life is too prescious to live it in misery of what you had in the past. It is best to move on; you'll be much happier in the long run. Enjoy what you do have in your life and some day, when you least expect it, you'll meet someone who is true to you. They say you always find the 'one' when you're not looking (I did, so you can too) take care :)
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Posted by dan
Tuesday, March 07, 2006 at 10:22:48
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Thanks tamser for the advice. It is not the first time I heard that. I have moved on somewhat but I can't be mean. He always seems to call and never say sorry in words but in his voice he says it. I think he is a very sad person and has no friends. I know it is destructive to hold on to him, but I really do feel that he needs me. Maybe if I step back, he will realize the benefit of me in his life and praise me instead of making me feel bad. I know he feels bad about himself and that is why I am the brunt of his anger. Friends tell me he is jealous of me and my ability to have someone new in my life and my ability to have so many people like me and want to be with me. He gets obviously jelous of Earl when he shows how much he cares for me, Ed just gets quiet and obviously angry. He'll make some smart ass comment like "Dan needs more attention". If conversation is not about him, he shows little interest. I don't know, but I feel like I am all he has and he puts me on a shelf and pulls me down when needed. He is so alone and is always on the internet posting naked pics of himself, looking for someone to rate or respond to him. It is sad and I want so much to help him but he just brings me down and all I do id try to build him up. I thought that was what God wanted me to do. I just don't know, but something innate just tells me to help and hold on.
Dan
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Posted by Jean
Monday, October 23, 2006 at 19:58:00
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First of all, I think you were innocent to move out of your house and leave your dog. If he was the one who wanted space, he should have been the one to move. Secondly men can be very weak, this was a selfish and childish thing for him to do. Be glad you found this out before it was too late, i.e. you married him. I know it hurts to remember that someone did this to you. I have to live with the memory of living with a guy for a year who was always looking at other girls and dumped me for a pretty dumb girl. It disgusts me, but hey, I was stupid, I should have left as soon as I noticed it, not a year later.... But we can put this down to us being caring, trusting people and feel good that WE are good people for whom this world would fall apart without. It is often the good people who suffer but it makes us stronger. I hope you meet someone who treats you well!
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Posted by angelsmum
Wednesday, November 01, 2006 at 12:31:34
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Hi there sweetheart - this is something i do when im going thru hell, as i am at mo and it does help.
think to yourself that in six months time youll be in a different place and youll back on this and wonder why it felt so bad. Remember that you are a strong lady, lessons are here to be learnt doesnt make it any easier to get thru, but once youve dried your tears and fallen into a fitful sleep,ask your angels to give you the strength you need to get thru another day. Just one more day is all you ahve to get thru. the sun will rise, and the tears will dry. I would say to you forget this man, i know you cant and wont but one day honestly you will have had enough to tel him to get stuffed and then your life will begin.
i was with a nutter for 7 years, he was a totoal control freak really awful to me and my children. the day i finally got strong and got rid i never looked back. i got mad thinking what i had let myself put up with. no person that loves you would genuinely do anything to hurt you
tru people do make mistakes. i made one with my now husband but because i was truly remorseful and truly loved him (and still do) we rececovered and went on to better things. thats not always tru. you cant make this man love you.he maybe thinks he does and he probably tells you its yur fault that he went with someone else. it isnt . be strong, dry your tears, speak to someone who loves you dearly, and remain calm. you will see the light one day, and when you do, youll find someone who derserves such a lovely lady. Good luck hunni
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Posted by Taylor
Tuesday, December 12, 2006 at 13:36:33
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I have gone thru the same thing! He used to tell me that nobody could ever love me more than he did. He was emotionally abusive, sexually abusive, just a plain ass! He cheated on me for the whole 10 years we were together, some how I managed to justify it..I loved him, so that was enough reason to put up with it etc. Well one fine day, his daughter told me he had been screwing the neighbor while I was away for a month. It hurt me badly, still does, I thought for sure I would never find anyone that could love me (that is what I had been told for 10 years!) and I could never love anyone like I did him. About 10 months later, a guy walked into my bar, and kept up after me, we now are married one year, he loves me for me, respects me, would never hurt me. I talk to him about everything, I am seeking councling to get past the emotional damage and trust issue, and he is by my side. My point here is hang in there, you CAN GET THRU IT! Love will show up when you least expect it, don't look to hard, because you might look right over it. Good luck babe!
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Posted by coralbea
Tuesday, December 12, 2006 at 14:24:11
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I am a vibrational therapist and work with energy. We are all energy and we are all in competition in getting and keeping energy.
My experiences with energy have been profoundly enlightening. There was a lot of comments in the messages about he/ she propping up someone else only to feel down them selves. Well the people who you are propping up are taking your energy and sadly you are giving it to them all unknowingly on both sides most of the time. these people are also sometimes known as psychic vampires.
We all have these people in our lives, the ones who come to us feeling down and they talk ( take) and we listen ( give) they walk away feeling great we are very tired, drained , down.
Stop it!! our energy is very precios, with out it we get sick. These people can also attach cords to us and continue to suck on us all the time. Ever had a friend that was like that then when they left you didn't think about them for a while then Bang they were in your thoughts for a few days, you notice that you are feeling tired and not knowing why??? They are still sucking your energy. The moment that you think of them, good or bad, you open that channel and give them your energy.
The book The Celestine Prophesy is a great book for explaining about the energy struggle.
Cut the cords that are drainging you, you can ask archangel Michael to help you cut the cords an believe me sometimes you really feel it as the cords are cut, and change how you deal with these vampires and you will all be much happier and healthier. Give you energy to those you really want to and those that will enhance your own. When you are with like minded people eg when you talk spiritual, angel, stuff you all walk away feeing bouyed and charged YES? that is because you have all given freely and lovingly of your energy and it has been returned to you in kind. Think about it and know the truth
Love and Light to you
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Posted by Brian
Sunday, February 25, 2007 at 18:38:44
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I'm an art student at an unnamed college. I grew up getting everything I wanted. Nothing phased or was rejected from me. I led a blissful life and have always been an average kid. The problem is, I've involved myself in such a psychological and manipulative trait as art. Its kind of sickening how much you can transform someone's reality with illusions and deception. Sadly, that is what my field of work is in. Being an artist you come to brood on everything, life, love, worship, humanity, murder, natural and psychological behavior. You come to realize all the emotion that balls up inside of you can be expressed into art. Now some people can't do this for long. For instead of expressing and letting it out, you brood and conform more dictations and attitudes in your own life.
The point is, I'm depressed :) It all doesn't feel worth it. What I have and have done gives me hope into confining my belonging and manhood into this presence of love and absence of wonder. I love life, but when my girlfriend of two years says our relationship was pointless to her. I have to agree... Someone please prove me wrong. Please.
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Posted by coralbea
Sunday, February 25, 2007 at 20:32:41
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Brian have you ever watched a movie called Pay it Forward?? If not please go and rent it if so then maybe you could do this. Bring some meaning into your life. Go out into the real world instead of the canvas you paint on. Why did you choose to study art?? Was it because you were passionate about the painted picture and the analysis of it all as you describe or was it because it was an easy subject. you say that you have never needed or wanted for anything, that must have been wonderful as a child and teenager yes? But now you need different things like spiritual growth maybe? Feeling restless and useless? Do not know where to go or what to do next? getting depressed and deeper into the dark? Then only you can turn on the light Brian. look within and find that passion. It does not have to material things that you are passionate about it could be helping the homeless have a hot meal on christmas day by volunteering your time at a shelter or buying someone a cup of coffee. Just a hello and a beautiful smile to a sour face shop assistant something. Something that will brighten the life of one person and so brightens the darkness around you. You create a ripple effect by doing what some call meaningless stuff. To someone that is having a bad day a smile could be what gives them hope.
Give back some of the abundance that was gifted to you in your life and this will bring meaning to you, Your soul will rejoice as will the angels.
Love and LIght Helen
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Posted by RjjA
Thursday, March 01, 2007 at 04:38:04
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What a perfect reply Helen...the ripple effect is something we should all remember. OCRon
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Posted by shawn
Wednesday, January 02, 2008 at 14:57:48
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well my girlfriend johnna is 14 and im 15 weve been goin out for 5 months now but ive known her for 4 and a half years i love her to death.well she had a problem one day and she told me. but come to find out she got raped at her frinds house by some black dude and its been a month she said sense then and she hasnt even told her mom yeat but she is on her birth day on jan. 9th.the father of the baby ran off and i understand everything she goin through cus my step sister had a baby resently at 15 yrs. old and the fathers never there.i want to be the man and step up and support her in every way i can.and if i haft to i will be the daddy of that baby.and i havnt talked to my parents yet about wut i want to do and i hope they do i really want to help my girlfriend wut do i do??plz help!
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Posted by shawn
Wednesday, January 02, 2008 at 15:00:37
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well my girlfriend johnna is 14 and im 15 weve been goin out for 5 months now but ive known her for 4 and a half years i love her to death.well she had a problem one day and she told me. but come to find out she got raped at her frinds house by some black dude and its been a month she said sense then and she hasnt even told her mom yeat but she is on her birth day on jan. 9th.the father of the baby ran off and i understand everything she goin through cus my step sister had a baby resently at 15 yrs. old and the fathers never there.i want to be the man and step up and support her in every way i can.and if i haft to i will be the daddy of that baby.and i havnt talked to my parents yet about wut i want to do and i hope they do i really want to help my girlfriend wut do i do??plz help!
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Posted by shawn
Wednesday, January 02, 2008 at 15:03:00
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well my girlfriend johnna is 14 and im 15 weve been goin out for 5 months now but ive known her for 4 and a half years i love her to death.well she had a problem one day and she told me. but come to find out she got raped at her frinds house by some black dude and its been a month she said sense then and she hasnt even told her mom yeat but she is on her birth day on jan. 9th.the father of the baby ran off and i understand everything she goin through cus my step sister had a baby resently at 15 yrs. old and the fathers never there.i want to be the man and step up and support her in every way i can.and if i haft to i will be the daddy of that baby.and i havnt talked to my parents yet about wut i want to do and i hope they do i really want to help my girlfriend wut do i do??plz help!
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Posted by coralbea
Sunday, January 06, 2008 at 00:18:10
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Dear Shawn, welcome :)
I truly admire your devotion to Johanna. it must have been very traumatic for her to experience such a dreadful act of betrayal and abuse at such a young age. Raising children is a very rewarding and demanding part of life, I am married and have three children and I know how hard it was when they were babies. I was very grateful to have a partner to share everything with and believe me at times it can be overwhelming. I can only imagine how young single parents cope and I send many blessings to them. You have asked for help. This is my advice to you listen and hear any and all advice you are given and of course take what is right for you and let the rest go, you can play a mental role play and try on all the suggestions that we on this page and others give you. i suggest that you really take the time to decide, buy a journal write down all your thoughts and suggestions of others. halve the page and on one side write the FORS and the otherside Write the AGAINST. This will also help you decide.
Shawn my advice to you: You are 15 so be 15. Go to school be the best that you can be. Have fun with your life, Finish school go to uni ( college) Make a good career, something your heart beats fast about. Set your self up, point you in the direction you want to go, and all the while you can be there for Johanna. If it is meant to be it will be. Before this life starts we choose our charts and make a contract with the creator. Everything that happens to us , good or bad, we have chosen. And we have chosen these experiences to help us in our spiritual growth. We then choose which path we take. Some of us choose the hard way some choose the easy way. This is where we need to listen to our Divine guidance.
This is your life Shawn. This is what you have given yourself. Johanna has chosen what happens in her life as well, we all do. There is always a choice to make. We can decide to put ourselves in a compromising position or not.
This is what you can do.You choose. What have you always wanted to do, to achieve? Will dropping out of school and supporting a girlfirend and a baby that is not yours be healthy for you? Will doing this very admirable thing for Johanna be the best for you? Will it see you completing your Divine life purpose? Is this the purpose of your life? Will you wake up one morning in 10 years time with a family, part of which is not your own, no education, maybe a less than satisfactory job scraping and scrounging for every sent and be content? will you think about all the things you ever wanted to do and didn't because you took on such a huge responsibility at such a young age? Be truly honest with yourself Shawn, because at the end of the day it is only you who can make you happy and fulfilled.
If you can answer all this with a feeling in your heart that feels right then do it. But I also feel that you have just answered your own question in the plea for help to decide what to do when you wrote to this Page. No body will think the less of you if you decide to be 15 and get on with your life.:)
ask your angels for help Shawn they can show you the way.
Love and light to you
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Posted by mickeyd
Monday, February 04, 2008 at 00:46:31
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Shawn, you make me feel really bad when you say "some black dude", and I feel as if I have to apologize for my race. I'm so sorry for you and your girlfriend ( and I'm proud that you're so devoted to her ), but please know that not all black people are complete idiots and not all of us are ignorant. I hate the fact that I have to be categorized because of judgement. I absolutely hate it and sometimes I feel ashamed of my color, even though I shouldn't be, but its something I have to deal with. So I'd like to educate as many people as I can and let them know that our race isn't evil, stupid, or ignorant. Its just that mostly the negative things about blacks are publicized which makes the rest of our lives miserable, and causes people to substitute those they see on T.V. for the whole race, which absolutely is not accurate. Again, I'm so sorry Johanna had to go through such a horrible experience and I hope the two of you can figure and work things out. God bless you, and by the way, I'm 14 years old.
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