Subject: lost and falling in love

Posted by melissa
Thursday, December 12, 2002 at 07:45:24

Message:
hi im just looking to make friends and gain someinsight from someone with a different veiw. im having an affair with a married man and i have a boyfriend, i,ve know the man im having an affair for 2summers at work. i,m having feelings for him and i feel lost. i wonder if it fate and we supposed to meet. i know he,s not real happy in his marriage and im not in my relationship. this is why i,m lost just wanting to be loved and wonder if there is a kind and loving man for me. i wonder if anyone has been in this pridictment.

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by Kathy
Thursday, December 12, 2002 at 11:09:11

Reply:
You really have to break it off with this married guy because ig=f he was so unhappy he would leave his marrige and then go out with you the right way.
You have to have respect for yourself and you have to think how it will affect his kids if he has any or his wife.
You wouldn't like it if the shoe was on the other foot.
I know it is hard, cause I am sure you love the guy. Most guys don't ever leave their wifes.
Take it from me!
Your Friend, Kathy

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by jenny
Thursday, March 20, 2003 at 07:45:07

Reply:
Hi Melissa, Sorry I cant really advise you, I,m in the same boat myself.I,ve been seeing this married man for five years now,I know he won,t leave his wife , at least for a few years yet, maybe never. His chidren are still of school age, I love him too much to finish it, and live in hope that one day we might be together, without too much pain for others. Im in a loveless marriage myself, my children are grown.Sending you my prayers Jen.

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by jenny
Thursday, March 20, 2003 at 07:45:25

Reply:
Hi Melissa, Sorry I cant really advise you, I,m in the same boat myself.I,ve been seeing this married man for five years now,I know he won,t leave his wife , at least for a few years yet, maybe never. His chidren are still of school age, I love him too much to finish it, and live in hope that one day we might be together, without too much pain for others. Im in a loveless marriage myself, my children are grown.Sending you my prayers Jen.

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by Amy
Monday, March 24, 2003 at 09:13:56

Reply:
Hi...I don't know what to do eather. I am married and in love with a married man. We have been seeing eachother for about a year now...but I can tell that he wants to break it off. He is in love with me as well but it's getting to difficult for him to continue seeing me. I am so in love with this man, more in love with him then my own husband. I don't know what to do. I would wait for this man until the end of time. I am hurt, sad, scared, and not in love with my husband. I want this other guy!!!!!!!!!

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by ltldevin
Sunday, May 11, 2003 at 22:08:05

Reply:
So many to love, or to dream of love. I myself just broke an affair off with a married women. I would have say that I have nothing that would make that easy. I would say only one thing comes to mind "Conceived in wrong, grows all wrong and becomes wrong only to wither with pain and suffering" I would say melissa and to the others break it off, lose contact and have the hope and faith that there is another one out there who would be so right for you all. I believe that we find someone so close sometimes that we can't stand to give it up no matter how much pain that others must endure. I say that from experience, I have not found another since, yet I am not creating turmoil in someone else. I do believe if it were meant to be then surely it can find away with out causing someone else pain. "For not even the seven hells could quench the loved that flowed from them" Love shouldn't cause anyone pain, or that is my belief, and it broke my heart to say goodbye, yet I do believe somewhere out there is my one true love, final love. I share your pain although it is your pain, and all of us have different ideas and beliefs. May the light shine on your path and love guide your hand.
sincerly
ltldevin

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by Annie
Tuesday, May 13, 2003 at 03:42:53

Reply:
Would you want to share a man you love with another?
There are two sides to every coin and remember this would you relly want someone who runs around on their spouse?because that spouse could be you.
Many people are hurt in this thing called love but anyone who would run around on a commitment such as marrage is not a trustworthy person it shows lack of commitment,sneakieness and a lier,if will do with one will have no woes about another this shows a weak selfish person.
If you are a party to this then heartache will be your reward.
Find a man who can love you and commit to you....
There is someone for you maybe you can not find him until you soul search yourself and find your worth.

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by carolyn
Thursday, May 15, 2003 at 03:12:01

Reply:
I was very much in love with my husband and it broke my heart when I found out he was cheating on me. I'm still in love with him, but the marriage ended as soon as I found out. He found out soon after that the grass was not greener on the other side. Everything ended in much heartache and we will never have what could have been. It's really too bad, because it could have been a beautiful marriage. It's a shame that he couldn't have figured that out sooner.

Marriage used to mean something, I can't tell you how much it hurts to find out your spouse is cheating ...

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by andrea
Wednesday, June 11, 2003 at 12:25:50

Reply:
I have not been involved in a relationship in 10 years, sometimes I think I would like to be, but it has helped my spiritual growth to not have to be bothered with a relationship. However, I was married to a cheat, and I think people who get involved in these kind of relationships have no respect for themselves. Why would you want to cause yourself that grief? If you are not happy in your current relationship, be honest and tell the other person, show them some respect.

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by donna
Friday, June 13, 2003 at 19:25:26

Reply:
To Melissa and all of you who are "the other woman": I am the recipient of the deceit, pain, anguish and betrayal of a 10 year affair that I recently discovered my husband was having with his secretary. We have been married for 18 years, and he apparently began his affair 7 years into the marriage. I would just like all of you to know the pain and devastation that is caused to not only the naieve and trusting spouse, but also the pain and destruction that is caused by "your true love" with a married to his children and his family. You and your "married lover" are not only hurting the spouse, you are hurting us all. I can appreciate that you believe you truly are in love with your married man and that he with you. However, just remember he leads a double life and the life he describes to you at home is not really as horrible as he makes it to be. If it was, he'd leave. You are not the only one is making love to, sharing his life with, and spending precious time with. He also does these things with his wife. The wife he took vows with at the alter. You know ladies, he's lying to you and deceiving you too. Yes, I am in great pain because I believed I was married to a good, honest and loving man, only to find out that he was a lier and in his own words, ". . . such a very, very bad man." He has not lost only my respect and trust, but also that of his teenage children, his parents, my family, his own siblings and his co-workers and friends. All of these individuals find him quite disgusting and repulsive and cannot understand why I have not yet thrown him out. They too all feel as betrayed as I do by his lies and deceit for all the years. I can appreciate people make mistakes and enter into marriages that don't always last, but if one spouse knows they are truly unhappy in the marriage (and that's why they turn to "the other woman," they need to at least have the dignity and respect for the spouse they are cheating on to be honest and upfront, no matter how painful, and discuss their feelings and disappointments. Should this lead to divorce, as painful as that is, it still shows compassion and respect for his spouse and mother of his children. Remember, ladies, he did love his wife when he married her, and if he hasn't left her yet, he most likely still loves her enough not to. So wake up girls, have some respect for yourselves and think of not only the spouse you are hurting by loving her husband, but also the pain you are causing to their children, families, and yes, girls, your ownselves. Ladies, I'm the victor throughout all the pain. He is still here and has begged for forgiveness and for me to allow him to stay. I would like all you to know what your "married" lovers say about "you" to their wives when confronted with the affair: "It was only sex. She means nothing to me. It made me sick after awhile, but I just didn't know how to stop. I never wanted her. She was just their for the taking. IF I TRULY WANTED HER, I WOULD HAVE LEFT YOU." My husband is still here with me, his wife. Sleep tight, ladies!

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by Annie
Sunday, June 15, 2003 at 17:44:11

Reply:
The lesson is why buy a cow when you can get the milk free.....

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by Jazzmine
Friday, June 27, 2003 at 12:49:32

Reply:
There are 2 sides to every affair-I know society likes to tell you that the person who is being betrayed is the victim, but truth be told there is something wrong in the relationship if one person feels the need to get fullfillment elsewhere. And the person who is allowing a married person to cheat can't be blamed either-it takes 2 to tango and humans ARE selfish creatures. All that being said, it is stupid to think a man is going to leave his wife for u, and besides, if your relationship began with a lie like that I highly doubt the two of you are going to trust each other once the affair came out into the daylight. The thing about secrets is that they become much less romantic when they're out in the open...

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by rdhdrc
Tuesday, October 14, 2003 at 01:46:09

Reply:
To the potential parasites:

I have been married 10 years and lived with my wife for nine years before I asked her to marry me. She was too perfect, too sweet, too giving, I thought she has gotta change...she never did. I proposed she was elated. 10 years go by we had our ups and downs as any marriage would. One thing I knew and she as well knew that we would not cheat on each other cause we loved each other so much. She was always saying I love you, I thought it was a little redundant, I mean 20 minutes after she told me, she tells me again? Well, I would tell her I love her too, but not as often as that. As time went on, my love for her grew, however as you live with a loved one sometimes time spent with them is not as much as she needed. I got to the point where I would almost ignore her because of her bickering about the matter. I made a big mistake. She was always on my mind as the radio played or as I drove anywhere, I would picture us in the song or just plain be thinking about her. I wish I would have let her know more often how much I love her.
Needless to say she had started talking with a customer at her work. He, being sharp to see she was a potential target for "rescuing" from a troubled marriage persisted in learning what I did wrong and what she wanted. I was always home after i finished work and she got home later usually. I should have seen the signs of an affair occuring but I totally trusted her. She is such a perfect wife, I really did not have a worry about her having an affair. Well, one day she moved out, I let her have her space, she was staying with her mother or her twin sister. I called her and wanted to meet and work things out. I sensed she maybe had been seeing someone, I asked her and she said yes she had dated this guy a couple times. I was totally astonished, but not completely surprised, I knew I had not been giving of my time with her. Well, we made up like we usually do, had some wonderful love making all nite long and stayed inside the whole day and all nite making up so to speak. She was leaving for work monday morning and she told me she had something to tell me. I could tell by the way she said it I was not going to like it. She started sobbing, trying to force the words out of her mouth, she could'nt. I was anxious yet fearful of what she was about to tell me. Tears rolling down her face, I could tell she felt so terrible she wanted to run away, the words came out, "I had an affair" .....I was hugging her trying to comfort her, but when I heard those words, I let go of her and my mind did not want to believe what she had just told me. The feeling of hearing about a loved one or a good friend dying was now entering my stomach and moving throughout my body as a sick feeling, nauseating weakness and such a helpless feeling of not being able to do anything...I walked into the front room and was pacing with anxiety. My whole world was shattered, I was so hurt only for that hurt to intensify intensely as time wore on. I was'nt sure if I should be hurt, or mad. I was'nt sure what to do. I let out a few words of profanity I am sure, I really don't remember what I said, and went down stairs and sat in a chair and stared at the floor, my whole 18 plus years with her were re visited, I was in shock, literally, I loved this woman so much, she was everything to me, I never realized how much I loved her until I had pushed her into this situation which led her to an affair. I had forgiven her at the end of the day, however, she was not going to give up her lover. The most painful two months, the most emotional two months, I have been through literal hell trying to get her back. I may deserve what I got, I don't know, but people who are getting involved with a married individual, you need to realize what you are doing. This not only affects you and the married person, but the immediate family and kids of your married lover are torn apart. My wife has cut off all realations with her mother and her twin sister and anyone who is backing me up. My wife is so burdened with guilt she has become a totally different person. Full of hate, and spite, I don't even know her. She has not even tried to work things out, this guy who is 10 years younger than her is making her happy. Well, I have been just torn in half by all this, an affair is rather blinding to the people involved, if your single and getting involved with a married person, you don't realize the intense bond a married couple have. The poor guy she is seeing has no idea how badly I want to rip his head off his shoulders and use him as a bag to break my new aluminum Easton baseball bat in on his legs and body and face. Not only does it make me think terrible things to do to him but my wife is going to file for divorce because of my atypical behavior. I have almost lost it dealing with my wife, sleeping with this guy repeatedly and throwing it in my face. I think I have put up with just about enough. Yes my wife is to blame too. But, I know she is way mixed up in her feelings and we have talked and been together a few times since she told me about the affair. She wants to work things out but she doesnt want to give him up.....I have came to one conclusion, since she gives me no information on this guy or her whereabouts, I have hired a private investigator to find this info out. He has offered to arrange a "meeting" with this guy and persuade him (basically, scare the hell outta him, how I dont know, I dont want to know) so he will be out of the picture. I would do this myself but I most likely would end up killing him. I am not a violent person, but when my marriage is being destroyed by this affair, well, I don't want to go to jail, lets just say that. I can't force my wife to come home, I don't want that but I can force this guy to get on with his life until we are divorced or get back together again. He knows what he is doing and I feel he has no future plans except to screw my wife as much as possible. He has nothing invested in this except sex. My wife is confused and is secure because she has a lover to fall back on. It may not be the right thing to do, but let me tell you people who prey on married people, you better watch your backs if you know whats good for you. I myself would be scared for my life if I had an affair with a married woman and I knew her husband was furious about it. Love and lust are blind, keep your eyes open, quit ruining marriages or contributing to the destruction of an otherwise workable thing. This poor fool doesnt even know the wrath of a married man who is out for revenge. I pitty the guy, most men would have killed a person like that by now. I have refrained as long as possible. No harm will come to this loser, I know this. I just want him to get the fuck out of my marriage or believe me, I will do the harm. All I am saying people is there was a strong bond or still is between most married couples. Leave well enuogh alone, there are plenty of single beautiful people out there. Married people have taken out vows to each other that sometimes are overlooked we are all human, I understand this, but people who have devoted their life to one another, come on get on with your own life and quit disrupting peoples lifes who at one time were inseperable. It crushes the very soul of these individuals and no good ever comes from this. No, I have never cheated on my wife, I never will. I would never want to have her feel the pain I have been in for two months constantly. I am no whimp by any means, but this pain you can't do nothing about. God have mercy on you vultures, cause I know their spouse wont.

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by Peecey
Wednesday, December 10, 2003 at 10:16:37

Reply:
What you must remember is that fate decides everything. It can be confusing, but fate decides if you wonder if an event was made by fate. Hope you understand. Also, this situation can is going to hurt someone, and in the end it will be you if it lingers too long. If you choose one man, the other may be hurt. If you keep it secret, your husband will hurt, and may leave you, then the other may return to the wife. Nobody can help you, only give you inspiration. It is fate who decides what happens.

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by margaret benny
Tuesday, June 01, 2004 at 23:38:51

Reply:
i really want sommeonne to love,trust, care for for the rest of my life. now in this time of my life i have something to offer someone else. still its all about me, for that i am sorry. can you find or help me get a wondderrful person to be in my life

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by ellea
Wednesday, August 18, 2004 at 09:27:52

Reply:
so what was the outcome Melissa? are u still having an affair? I havent much to say the others have pretty much covered it all I agree with them

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by Jon
Sunday, September 05, 2004 at 04:13:09

Reply:
May we all ask OURSELF the question; what is the intent of our heart in performing the act?

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by Ruth
Sunday, September 12, 2004 at 18:25:13

Reply:
To all the ones who have been cheated on, I would like to say I am sorry. I have been hurt before. No I am not married. But I have had an affair with a married man. And yes all of you are right. Alot of people get hurt, as a matter of fact everyone gets hurt. I know that this affair was completey wrong. I knew this then and I know it now. And yes they always make things seem like they are bad at home, but there're not some people are just selfish and want eveything that they see. And their are some women who are lonely and will fall for the first sign of attention that a man gives her. And I WAS one of those women. And I thank God that I came to my senses. It was hard and still is because I work with this married man. But after reading some of the stories. I felt even worse about what I have done. There has been plenty of times that I wanted to call his wife and tell her but they have a child and even though my feelings are hurt by him, I wouldn't wish this pain on her and their child. Cheating is wrong and having an affair is wrong. The one thing that made me really come to my sense was that, I was crying about how he had hurt me by having sex with another women, and I couldn't image how she(his wife) would feel, they are married with a child and have house and have been together longer. So I know that my feeling of hurt wouldn't compare to how she would feel. I ask God for forgiveness because I am human and I make mistake. I am Thankful for my experience, because I have learned. And I pray that this never happens to me when I get married. And to all the the women and men who are having an affair with a marrried person, ask your self this "What makes you so special and perfect that they want do the samething to you"? YOU ARE NOT. "WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND, TIMES 2. When you are having an affair you are not looking for love you are LUSTING for TROUBLE.

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by jackie
Thursday, September 16, 2004 at 13:12:05

Reply:
i agree with all the people who said stay away from a married people they are big troublemy hubby had an affair 7 years ago when confronted about it he said there was no body yet he told me how unhappy he was did'nt know what he wanted
so i asked who she was again was told no body.
yet he continued to see his nobody and hurt me more and more each day,
7 years later he finally gives me his story about her yes it took 7 long years for him to come clean.
he lied for so long he forgot how to tell the truth. yes we stayed together it's been so very hard to love him mostly because of all the lies he told.
a married person lies to so many and yes if they were so unhappy at home why keep comming back?
why not be totally honest and admit their affair
let either the wife or husband go on with their lives with out them.
AFFAIRS hurt.
and if the person leaves for you then your life together started on lies and betrayal sneaking around, is that how any woman or man wants to start a life together?
so tell your married lover to go home and settle his issues before he comes back to you.you will only get hurt in the end, and no one deserves that pain of an ending filled with tears and oh so much pain.

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by Ecstatica
Friday, September 17, 2004 at 23:18:29

Reply:
I don't understand why you would get married to someone that you don't love. If you love this person you would never do anything to hurt them. (affairs)True love comes from God, because God is love. Never get married just to be with someone, if you get married you do it because you understand the truth. And you shoul never mess with someone in a marriage, that is something that is to be sacrade. If you do, you are tempting that person, and that is sin!!!

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by Ecstatica
Saturday, September 18, 2004 at 00:25:53

Reply:
I just wanted to reply to Peeceys comment: It's so easy to "brush off" (for a lack of a better word)responsibility for our actions by saying that it was "fate" or "destiny" but the simple truth is that fate is just the conclusion of our choices. And so you are somewhat in control of fate! your actions have consequences and yes you are responsible for your fate! just some thing for the cheaters out there to think about, and people in general.

Oh and one more thing I admire the people that can be so forgiving! that is something that I'm trying to learn. My gf lied to me and I'm finding it so hard to trust her now, I can't even imagine the HURT that married people must feel when these "vultures" attack, and to forgive after that is really something. "You can't truly love until you learn to forgive"

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by unknown
Thursday, September 30, 2004 at 15:47:52

Reply:
I thought I would never have an affair with a married man but recently did. I also thought I was in love with him and he told me he loved me. It's been so long since I was in love or heard those words said to me. Tried to break it off several times knowing what we were doing was selfish, unfair and could cause pain on his family, him & I. Just the other night realized I'm not the only one he's cheating on his wife with. Wow how easy to fall out of love with him,,,at least I think it will be? Truth is I'm just as selfish as him. I'm now in the process of taking responsiblity for my actions and seeing myself as the selfish, lustfull & easy hole I was. I have many yrs of sobriety and have been working on myself but can see now that I still don't have the self worth or love for myself that I deserve. He told me him and his wife were talking about divorce as soon as their youngest child is 18 and I thought to myself that I'd wait for that day. LOL what a fool I've been. He doesn't know that I know about yet a 3rd woman & I haven't decided whether or not I'm going to tell him. Revenge however of telling his wife I know is definitely not a good choice. Thank goodness I didn't get pregnant by him. I actually thought I was so in love with him that I wanted to have his baby. Bottom line for me is I let my feelings take control of me and my actions. Feelings come and go they should not dictate our actions to that extent. What all of you have written is correct. Affairs are not a good thing! I've learned from my terrible mistake!

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by confused
Wednesday, October 06, 2004 at 14:49:26

Reply:
Bottom line is everyone gets hurt. Married men/women don't seek affairs intentional. Single women don't want to be involved with married men. Married men don't leave their wives either. To much to lose. Status, money, children, etc. It's a bad situation. However, feelings are something we can't control. Many times, it's not about a sexual relationship. It's more companionship. If it was only sexual, most married people can have a one night stand and get it over with it. When it comes to love, you can't control your feelings. My prayers to all.

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by Its not easy
Wednesday, November 10, 2004 at 15:21:31

Reply:
Its not easy to be in this situation...I never meant for any of this to happen. It started very innocently, and grew to this. I had the chance to stop it a few times and just could not. I used to be one of those people who judged others in this situation...but I learned that you cannot judge unless you are in it. Well, I am in it and trying to figure out what to do to get out. Its not as easy to just break it off when there are strong feelings involved. I think we are all trying to do the right thing and none of us meant to hurt anyone. But in the end, it is inevitable...SOMEONE WILL GET HURT. It is not as if I have not talked about this with my husband. I have begged him to get counseling with me, I have told him what I am looking for, I have talked until I am blue in the face. I am not ready to give up on my marriage...I have not consumated this relationship yet. But it does not stop me from wanting to. I know a lot of you can understand when you want so badly to hear from the person that you married what you are hearing from someone else. It clouds your thinking...makes you do crazy things. Maybe my husband and I should seperate...I dont know. All I am saying is its not easy to be in this position, and I did not mean for it to happen. But I am one of those people that believe in fate. And I believe this happened for a reason. Maybe not to say that this other person is the one for me, but maybe to show me that my husband is or isnt. Its important to take things day by day and do your best, but I agree, when it comes to love, you can't control your feelings.

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by the other woman
Monday, November 29, 2004 at 09:03:12

Reply:
I have read all the responses and feel totally
embarrased and ashamed, but yet, am gleeming with
pride and glory that everyone hates the other woman. I
am the "Other" woman in my lover's marriage. I am
recently divorced and have known my "friend" for the
past 6 mos. He is 7 yrs. younger than me and is
married and has two kids. I'm older and have three kids
from my 12 yrs. of marriage. I met this person from my
workplace and we started out as friends and then soon
we realized that we had more feelings for each other
and started our affair. I enjoy being with him and don't
mind that he always goes home to his wife and kids. I
just linger on to the hope that maybe one day he will
leave his wife and come to me. But until that day, I will
continue being with him and just hope that "they" don't
find out. It would be shock to everyone in this small
town.

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by Lost....
Wednesday, December 01, 2004 at 08:20:07

Reply:
I am so lost and so glad to find these postings.
Thanks so much to "it's not easy" for her reply.
I too can't just break it off, I can't. He means so much to me. But, I will never leave my family. He is 17 years younger and I know I can't offer him the married life he deserves. He has such a great heart and soul and deserves a family of his own someday. I'm 41 and I do love my husband,not in a passionate way but in a familiar way (if that makes sense). This guy and I are so in sync, I don't understand. He could have anyone, yet here we are. I'm just as happy sitting and talking and laughing with him as I am being intimate with him. But, ultimately, I know what I will have to do. I just don't know how I will survive the heartache without my family seeing it.

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by Feels good to love
Monday, December 20, 2004 at 02:28:55

Reply:
Lots of people (more than 50%) get divorced....this is not true that the divorces - or most of them - are not happening because the married man has found his spouse does not appreciate him, want him, adore him or accept him the way he is. The stats are so high, and yet "Married men never leave their wives for the "other women" BS!!! Both my very wonderful uncles did...they married the WRONG women the first time around. Big deal...they learned and found the RIGHT women the second time around. I am involved with a married man I knew as a friend for 12 years. Just recently. We have almost broken it off a few times in the 5 months we've been acknowledging our feelings. He has major issues of loneliness (not his fault....when I was the wife it was MY job to make sure my alcholic ex wasn't lonely)....and being taken for granted since he works really really hard, is great with his (older) kids and does stuff around the house and it's now there is no or little affection or sex....how long should he stand it for? Men do leave...so do women...I did!!....Jump into reality people...it happens and it just depends on the underlying reasons. I have no idea what will happen this year, but I will work my butt off to let him know I am the one he deserves and I am the one who appreciates him, loves him and fulfills the needs a wife should fulfill as he does fill the needs a husband should. MOST marriages fail...not because of cheaters...because they are doomed anyhow....it's just a matter of what you are focussing on as the "issue" for failure. This is life...it is hard...it can hurt...or it can be fabulous...we just don't know. But taking it slowly and showing respect for whomever you're serious with can make a big difference...and my guy never talks bad about his wife...only sometimes he alludes to loneliness and that he does what he does (workaholic) to keep his family in their expensive tastes....and I make sure I am not materialistic. My uncles are really happy...thats 2 out of 3 brothers in one family...pretty different odds than what I read in places like this....everyone...married...not married...follow your heart...life is too short...be good to your kids and keep them in the loop as much as possible. Move out and on and get happy with that one special soulmate that you should have had in the first place.

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by i love him
Monday, December 20, 2004 at 02:35:29

Reply:
Lots of people (more than 50%) get divorced....this is not true that the divorces - or most of them - are not happening because the married man has found his spouse does not appreciate him, want him, adore him or accept him the way he is. The stats are so high, and yet "Married men never leave their wives for the "other women" BS!!! Both my very wonderful uncles did...they married the WRONG women the first time around. Big deal...they learned and found the RIGHT women the second time around. I am involved with a married man I knew as a friend for 12 years. Just recently. We have almost broken it off a few times in the 5 months we've been acknowledging our feelings. He has major issues of loneliness (not his fault....when I was the wife it was MY job to make sure my alcholic ex wasn't lonely)....and being taken for granted since he works really really hard, is great with his (older) kids and does stuff around the house and it's now there is no or little affection or sex....how long should he stand it for? Men do leave...so do women...I did!!....Jump into reality people...it happens and it just depends on the underlying reasons. I have no idea what will happen this year, but I will work my butt off to let him know I am the one he deserves and I am the one who appreciates him, loves him and fulfills the needs a wife should fulfill as he does fill the needs a husband should. MOST marriages fail...not because of cheaters...because they are doomed anyhow....it's just a matter of what you are focussing on as the "issue" for failure. This is life...it is hard...it can hurt...or it can be fabulous...we just don't know. But taking it slowly and showing respect for whomever you're serious with can make a big difference...and my guy never talks bad about his wife...only sometimes he alludes to loneliness and that he does what he does (workaholic) to keep his family in their expensive tastes....and I make sure I am not materialistic. My uncles are really happy...thats 2 out of 3 brothers in one family...pretty different odds than what I read in places like this....everyone...married...not married...follow your heart...life is too short...be good to your kids and keep them in the loop as much as possible. Move out and on and get happy with that one special soulmate that you should have had in the first place.

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by betty
Monday, December 20, 2004 at 18:43:31

Reply:
Melissa,
Well, take it from me as the woman that was in a relationship with the man who was having an affair; YOU WILL NOT WIN IN THIS RELATIONSHIP!This man has already commited to another and like it or not...you are just a piece of ass!

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by tricia
Friday, January 14, 2005 at 22:34:32

Reply:
i'm glad i managed to find this site. im 29 yrs old and having an affair with a married guy 38 years of age whom i met 5 months ago. our love was so intense that i broke up with my boyfriend of 7 years and continued my affair with him. we are like soulmates. i don't know why he came into my life and changed everything. i realized im not really happy with my boyfriend and im just with him for the sake of being with someone. this guy is someone i long to have all my life. but he's married. he's into a failed marriage. his wife cheated on him several years back and he just could not bring back the feelings. they're together only for the sake of the kids who are still young to understand what is going on. i love this guy so much. i can feel that he is happy having me and in very happy too having him. although its a relationship that may not be accepted by society, i still hope we could get on with it until its time either to break it off or for us to be together as husband and wife. he always says that if he's stil single, he could have proposed to me the first day we met. yes, we plan to get married but not so soon, probabaly when his 2 kids have slightly grown up and may be able to accept reality. i feel bad about his wife who never appreciates the nice, loving and responsible person that he is. i don't know what is our future. but we both can feel we have a future. before this, i thought this thing would never ever happen to me considering how my friends and family look up to me. but it's true, we can't control our feelings. im still happy with him. it's quite a tough relationship with all those restrictions on phone calls or seeing each other. but its all worth it. i will still prepare a nice dinner for him (when he visits me) like what a wife should do and bcos that is what he deserves to have in the first place.

Wondering what's going to happen next
Posted by Kristine
Tuesday, January 18, 2005 at 17:49:40

Reply:
Okay, so I'm going to be 25 and have been seeing a married man for about 1 year and 7 months now. He's the husband of a fairly good friend. He's 36. It started out as just sex, totaly initiated by him. But now, it has progressed to where we're like a serious couple. Currently, my friend and lover are in the midst of a VERY bad divorce, and I just don't know what's going to happen to us when it's final. He comes to me for everything, even help on what to do with the kids. I know I should not be involved, but I'm falling for him and I'm scared. I obviously want a more "traditional" relationship. I haven't told ANY of my friends or family, so it would be nice if someone has some insight on my predicament.

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by soulsearching
Wednesday, February 09, 2005 at 19:36:56

Reply:
I have been in a affair with a Married Man for about a year and a half. I have also been the one who was married for 4 years and my husband cheated on me and left me for "the other woman". I know how it goes both ways. Worn both hats.

Maybe I'm crazy or maybe i'm not but I see "signs" with my married man. I don't know if it's good to have these signs or bad to have them. They seem to be leading me down a path.

I have the married man that says that he will leave but I will have to see how that goes.

I leave it up to God because if God wants me to be with this man, he will let it be.

Thank you

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by totally lost
Saturday, February 12, 2005 at 07:34:03

Reply:
i'm 28 years old and involved with a married man who's 49 for a year. I really understand i need to break up with him but i just don't know how? we started out as friends and flirt around a bit. at first, i thought it was harmless and nothing will happen due to the age difference. but it didn't trun out that way... we both know it would be best if we break up. but i really am helpless, i don't know how. how to break up with someone you love. i didn't expcet him to leave his family and he never lie to me about that. he has two young children and he let me know he has to make sure his children grow up happily. besides, due to the age diffenence, i don't see a future. another problem is that i have a very good boyfriend of 8 years, but i'm afraid that i have no feelings for him because i'm in love with this married man. my boyfriend is a very sweet person and i feel so sorry. but i don't know how to learn to love him as before. i feel uncomfortable even when he touched my hand!! please anyone help me! i know what i should do but i don't know how to go back to love my boyfriend and un-love this married man???

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by Mike
Tuesday, February 22, 2005 at 11:35:17

Reply:
Replying To "Ruth"

I've been having an affair with a married woman. In the beginning she kept making sexual jokes. I know she was just trying to see what my reaction was. I played along. She opened up and told me all the times she cheated on her husband and how he had no clue. I felt bad for the guy. I thought..man that guy could be me. Then, like a coward I started sleeping with her. She then told me she loved me. She then tried to break it off with me a few times. But she could not figure out. She would cry. She says she is neglected in her marriage. I don't think she is neglected too much. He has had suspicions of her cheating too. That's the other thing I hate. She lies to him in a way that that just makes me mad. She tells him, "You are just paranoid. You think out these crazy thoughts and it makes me mad you don't trust me. Why would I risk our kids and marriage over an affair?" Then he feels bad and apologizes. And feels like a bad person for doubting her and wonders how she could ever love him. Meanwhile she tells me this and laughs.
But other times she cries and tells me she feels like a fraud.

People have said on here that everyone gets hurt. It's true. But I'm a horrible person for causing some of this. I want to call him and tell him about me, and the other 4 guys. But he would be destroyed. I'm hurt thinking of what I've helped this 26 year old girl do.

I have broken off the affair, and she has called me crying. Whatever.

If anyone is considering an affair with someone at work, church, the gym, or where ever...it's not worth it.

Plus it taints you on marriage. You think..."wow..this could happen to me." Believe me I would much rather not know about this whole world of lies and deceit.

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by megan
Thursday, February 24, 2005 at 10:09:07

Reply:
I was the most judgemental person when it came to people cheating. my husband and i have been together 8 yrs, married for 5 of them. About a year ago my husband had a one night stand and we broke up for several months. i even thought divorce was the only answer.. i left and went to my mothers and he stayed in our home. we only saw each other the forst few weeks when he was seeing our son. i was hurt, even thought i hated him. if he loved me how could he. well i tried to forgive and forget and we got back together.
well this past summer i ran into an old boyfriend and we started talking on the phone everyday, emailing one another. a few months into it we met at a park. talked for hours. never touched each other at all. well him being married as well as myself we talked anytime we could.. he is a driver for a local company and works crazy hours, i was getting up in the middle of the night while the family was asleep just to say hello. we saw each other seveal times and it has devoloped into a sexual relationship as well as a wonderful friendship. we still today talk as much as we can. he moved out of his home and is legally seperated from his wife since right after x-mas.anyhow. iam the bad person now! 100% my husband declares his love to me everyday, but my heart is with my old flame. ilove my husband but i think i may have fallen out of love with him. some people say if your unhappy leave.. well that sounds easy, but sometimes ending alone seems worse then following my heart. the grass is never greener on the other side i no this. but i feel like i have gone crazy- i am torn. i no there are several kids that with the rash of this if i step forward but i no where my heart is but my mond is keeping me planted for now. so melissa if this helps. love hurts.. for sure but everything happens for a reason and thats the only thing that keep me going!
-Megan

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by Mike
Tuesday, March 01, 2005 at 08:26:31

Reply:
Hey Megan,

I would just divorce your husband. He betrayed you. If you had of left him in the beginning, then what you are doing would not be wrong at all.
Now YOU feel like a bad guy. You're not. And keep seeing this guy. But don't move in with him or anything. I think you need some independence. I know..I know..it's so easy to say but the reality is much more difficult. I would just set it as a goal. You're not happy. You only live on the average 70 or 80 years. Do you really want to be unhappy for the remainder of your life? If you think you can be happy with your husband then by all means try. I don't think you are bad person.

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by amber
Wednesday, March 09, 2005 at 10:47:02

Reply:
I am soo confused and I don't know what to do. I have been in a relationship for almost 11 years. Last year I found out he was having an affair with my best friend, but I took him back. after about 6 months I was still having a hard time with the affair, and I asked him to move out. We were seperated for 3 months and during that time I was involved with a man I went to school with. He moved to a new state and I fell into the arms of my ex. To make matters worse I found out that I was pregnant. Having no idea who the father is I planned to have an abortion...but I couldn't go through with it.(I have 2 children now) My ex told me that he loved me and would raise this baby as his own reguardless of whose it is so of course I thought that is what I wanted. We have only been back together for three months and I am feeling that I made the wrong decision. There is a man that comes into my work 2-3 times a week and we have always had sortof a flirty relationship but I have grown to have feelings for this man. I have been to his work as well and we talk and have such great conversation. Just recently we admitted to having feelings for each other. The problem of course is that he is married. His reason for not wanting to leave his wife (even though he is unhappy) is that he does not want to be a weekend father. As long as he can see his kids every night he is happy with that. We have decided not to go any further with our feelings but I can not get him off my mind and I want soo badly to be with him. I don't know how to make these feelings go away, and I am afraid that we will end up seeing each other and I will end up hurting soo much more than I am now, I just don't know what to do. any help?

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by turan
Wednesday, April 13, 2005 at 13:21:18

Reply:
hello i am 30 years old looking for friends all over the world i m 5 11 and 1 65 ibs have a brown coffee skin age race is not important just email me thank you

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by ran
Wednesday, April 13, 2005 at 13:23:21

Reply:
hello i m looking for new friends all over the world i am 30 years old 5 11 and 1 65 ibs i have a nice brown coffee skin would like to have new friends just email me i need to have new friends i love new culture

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by missy
Thursday, April 28, 2005 at 18:16:32

Reply:
hello,i need some advice and i am married.i have met a married man that i new when i was like 5 years old now i am 32 didn't realize it was him until a picture that my mom had, we ended meeting and talking one day he ended up kissing me, so i asked him if he loved his wife he said yes,then he wanted to have sex and i said no. then i left he ended up calling me and said we could be friends and i said okay but he still hints around about things,so i thought i would mess with him a little bit and act like i would meet him somewhere then he backed out i also found out that he had an affair on his wife about 5 years ago and he said she never knew, he seems really nice should i continue to have contact with him? is he serious or just fantisizing?

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by debbie
Sunday, May 01, 2005 at 19:50:31

Reply:
I am thinking about having an affair with a married man . He said he's happy in his marrage but I think we can make it sex only no love word will be spoken/.........is this possible ?

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by kelly
Thursday, May 05, 2005 at 21:21:52

Reply:
I have been married for 9 years lived together for 5 with a small child. My fathers friend's son is going through a divorce after his wife cheated on him. I started talking to him on the phone but now I want to meet him and get together. My husband is has become distant argumentative and verbally abusive to me and my child. I feel that I am getting attention from this other person but after reading these postings I will be no better than his wife who cheated on him.I want to leave my husband but first have to get a job, housing ect. I am afraid to start anything before I can get my act together and leave.

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by Maria
Saturday, May 14, 2005 at 03:50:16

Reply:
I just turned 22, he's 37. I've known him for four years and I've been seeing him for four months.
I wonder every minute what he is talking about with his wife, and if she is smiling at him. I wonder if he is thinking about me. Everything. It hurts. But then I see him and as a stupid girl I can't say no to him.
The only thing that keeps my sanity is knowing that in two months I will be leaving for the AirForce. Will I have the strength to say goodbye then?
I finally got the courage to ask him how his life at home was. I was afraid he would get angry, but to the contrary he answered every question. He said obviously he isn't happy. But she doesn't exactly see things the way he does. Any helpful words???

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by Maria
Monday, May 16, 2005 at 18:39:35

Reply:
To debbie, If he is happy in his marriage then why do you want to put that guilt on yourself? You may feel now that love will not play into it, but it always does in one way or another.
You could be a friend however and tell him to get his act together and stop thinking like a teenager. He married her and you said he loves her. I wouldn't mess with that. If he cares about you and your opinion then maybe hearing it from you could help him see how good he has it. You've seen these comments and seen how many relationships don't work.
Believe me, if you do this you are playing with fire. I've gotten myself into a real predicament and it hurts everytime I walk away from him or hang up the phone with him. My heart skips when I see him and when he touches me and makes love to me, it's magic.
I wish I had just left well enough alone and told him no in the first place. If you can help it, don't ruin a good thing.

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by Bridgette
Saturday, May 21, 2005 at 08:59:32

Reply:
I am 24 and have been seeing a married man for a little over a year now. I know "the other woman never wins" and i dont know why i continue on with this relationship knowing that. His wife is immature, she leaves every thursday with his 2 yr old daughter and goes to her parents house until Sun, and that is the time i get to spend with him. I work with this man too, he works long hours and barely has any time to see his child, and when he has time, his wife takes her to her parents house for the weekend. He refuses to go to his in-laws because they dont get along. I love this man and deep in my heart i know we were meant to be together. I make him feel like a whole person again, with my help he stands up for himself now and has told her he can not go on living like this. It should have ended a long time ago. He is scared for his daughter, he is a good father, and sees his daughter very little now, he is afraid what will happen if he gets divorsed, he will see even less of her. I am trying to understand all of this and wait for him, but should i be waiting? He says I am what makes him happy, but is it really about his happiness when a child is involved?

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by Maria
Wednesday, May 25, 2005 at 00:10:50

Reply:
To Bridgette, Of course he deserves to be happy just like anyone else. I don't have much advice for you at this point but I wonder why a wife is so willing to leave her husband home for four days of the week without seeing him. Obviously she isn't very happy either. I guess just take it as it comes because there isn't much you can do right now. Actually I have questions for you...How did it start and how was it in the beginning etc. Can you tell me your story? Maybe it will help me get through mine.

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by Nick
Tuesday, June 07, 2005 at 23:49:12

Reply:
Love is no scared , love is not lonley and love can be shared. If you think that one is better then the other that is the way it is because you thinking it that way. I am a very happy married man who has a lot female freinds but, I love my partner and can't cheet on her no matter how lonley I get. Love is stronger then easy out and cofussion. take a brake from both and look at where you going with both men. or pick one ....
Fantasys are greater then reality but when you face rteality you will be happier and you will wuestion yourself.... What were you thinking?..
hope that this helps

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by pauline
Thursday, June 09, 2005 at 07:48:25

Reply:
After reading this site...I found out how mysterious life really is in the world of loving and leaving and the relationship as a whole. People are running in circles with their relationships..searching for the ultimate thing...HAPPINESS and CONTENTMENT. The first is not hard to find and it comes for free as long as one knows how to find it, while the latter is somewhat a "smoke" which one canot hold. It is really difficult to be content unless you love without expecting whether the relationship will succeed or not, and learn to accept the consequences of your actions. You will be contented only when you say that you have no regrets.

I am in the process of divorce. I was married to an irresponsible man and a drug addict. I got 2 kids. But we are civil with my husband. 5 months ago I met a gorgeous man, we are in a foreign country. The very first day he asked me if it's ok if he's married, I replied so am I. I thought we will just remain friends until we became so close, we shared great things and we both loved poetry and fell in love with each other. I found him as the "perfect" man for me. He treated me like a princess that no other man did. He said that his feelings toward his wife faded and he wanted to divorce her, but later he realize that it's not easy to leave his wife after 10 years of marriage. I cannot argue with that and I cannot demand things from him. We both know we will end up seeing each other coz he will end his work contract and will go back home soon to his wife. We are counting the days and we are both in grief. The saddest part is we both never know if we can still see each other again. He makes no promises and cannot guarantee the possibilities of our relationship. Though he wanted really see me again one day. I know soon I have to waive goodbye. I am hurting even at this writing, in a few days I will never see him and might never see him again. Just the thought of not seeing him anymore hurts to the very core of my being but one thing is for sure, I will never forget him and will always cherish the times we have shared. He gave me so much happiness even for a shortwhile and I am happy for that, and I shoud be thankful that even in a short time I had the chance to love and be loved this much. But I know I have to let it go. I should know where I stand, and I have to accept the truth, the pain; i know this too shall pass and I have to move on.

Life is myterious indeed. We have to learn to flow with it, live ourselves for a moment and let it happen. Acceptance is a must so you can move on again. This is LIFE and Loving is the greatest act of giving. I have learned that in life, you have to love deeply and passionately and love with all your heart. You might get hurt but it's the only way to live life completely so that one day you have no regrets and be content and be happy.

Enjoy life! Love truly!

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by pauline
Thursday, June 09, 2005 at 07:52:10

Reply:
After reading this site...I found out how mysterious life really is in the world of loving and leaving and the relationship as a whole. People are running in circles with their relationships..searching for the ultimate thing...HAPPINESS and CONTENTMENT. The first is not hard to find and it comes for free as long as one knows how to find it, while the latter is somewhat a "smoke" which one canot hold. It is really difficult to be content unless you love without expecting whether the relationship will succeed or not, and learn to accept the consequences of your actions. You will be contented only when you say that you have no regrets.

I am in the process of divorce. I was married to an irresponsible man and a drug addict. I got 2 kids. But we are civil with my husband. 5 months ago I met a gorgeous man, we are in a foreign country. The very first day he asked me if it's ok if he's married, I replied so am I. I thought we will just remain friends until we became so close, we shared great things and we both loved poetry and fell in love with each other. I found him as the "perfect" man for me. He treated me like a princess that no other man did. He said that his feelings toward his wife faded and he wanted to divorce her, but later he realize that it's not easy to leave his wife after 10 years of marriage. I cannot argue with that and I cannot demand things from him. We both know we will end up seeing each other coz he will end his work contract and will go back home soon to his wife. We are counting the days and we are both in grief. The saddest part is we both never know if we can still see each other again. He makes no promises and cannot guarantee the possibilities of our relationship. Though he wanted really see me again one day. I know soon I have to waive goodbye. I am hurting even at this writing, in a few days I will never see him and might never see him again. Just the thought of not seeing him anymore hurts to the very core of my being but one thing is for sure, I will never forget him and will always cherish the times we have shared. He gave me so much happiness even for a shortwhile and I am happy for that, and I shoud be thankful that even in a short time I had the chance to love and be loved this much. But I know I have to let it go. I should know where I stand, and I have to accept the truth, the pain; i know this too shall pass and I have to move on.

Life is myterious indeed. We have to learn to flow with it, live ourselves for a moment and let it happen. Acceptance is a must so you can move on again. This is LIFE and Loving is the greatest act of giving. I have learned that in life, you have to love deeply and passionately and love with all your heart. You might get hurt but it's the only way to live life completely so that one day you have no regrets and be content and be happy.

Enjoy life! Love truly!

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by NAMEWITHHELD
Tuesday, June 28, 2005 at 13:03:45

Reply:
I am married, but separated and been celibated for 2 years. I am about to have an affair with a married man in two weeks from now. I know it may be wrong, but I love him too much to let him go. We have been knowing one other since 1986 and felt we are best friends. However, now we developed more than best friendship since December 30, 2004. It may be wrong before anyone's eyes, but we want to see where we stand on July 13 this month if we are desired to be with each other and let him decide whether to leave his wife and me to divorce my husband. We have been close than anyone else think. Tell me if I am doing it wrong.

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by Confused
Wednesday, July 20, 2005 at 09:19:18

Reply:
I am 21 and have been married since I was 17. A year ago the guy that I lost my virgenty came back in my life. The first 2 times we slept together we both agreed it was just sex. We didn't talk for 6 months and in April he came back in my life. We tried to be friends. Twice a week we would go out with some friends and drink. After two weeks we started sleeping with each other. The worst thing is he has a pregnant girlfriend. We are both unhappy in our lives. I just recently told my husband I want to seperate I moved out last week. When I told the guy he was so excited. Belive me I am not expecting anything. I have known him for 8 years and I know his ways. Well he says once a certain cirumstance is over (not the pregnancy) he is going to leave her. But we went out and I found out that he tried to get one of my friends to sleep with him a couple weeks ago. He tries to say that I am the only reason he is cheating on his girlfriend and every time we go out he tells my he loves me but I don't think I belive that. I am just so confused my whole life I have wanted to be with him but I don't really know what I want anymore.

Thanks

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by Dave
Sunday, September 04, 2005 at 10:34:00

Reply:
WoW!! Well I'm not sure how to advise anybody here. But was told once a long time ago. If your going out side to play, don't play in your back, because if you do something wrong, you will get caught. And if you do go out to play, play with safe friends. Well safe friends are usally the married one's. Afairs can be helpful, and hurtful. My best advice is for real. If you feel safe in your situation, and no one is doing this to cause the other trouble, then play, be friends, but remember it's just not going to work till the one is the relationship leaves. But even then, things will change in the relationship with your friend. I'm out of love myself. I would love to find a woman to hold hug, and make love to again. But I'm not sure if I could just do that. I have been married for all most 29yrs., and my wife and I have not been sexual with each other for the last 5 yrs. Not by my choice (heck I'm the guy here, we live 4 sex.....lol) this is her choice. She gose out wiht her friends and tells them I don't like sex anymore. Well if the right woman came along, and if the chemistry was right. I suppose I'd be in an affair myself. I see nothing really wrong with an affair if it is for the right reson's. If a person finds new love, and is convinced he/she can make a go at it. Then more power to them. Counselors make a heck of lot money, and all ways, all ways try to fix things. If they are broke, don't fix it, it will break again. Sometime we all have to just get on with our lives. I think if you like someone for the phyical attention, or part of a relationship, then you might be wrong. But if you have emotions, and emotional feeling for this person, you need to look deep into your soul, heart, and mind. Plan on making yourself whole again, and move on with your life, and leave your mate. and don't look back.
Dave

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by Heartbroken
Tuesday, September 13, 2005 at 23:27:01

Reply:
Im 21 and Ive been dating my highschool sweetheart for over 3 years now. Over a year ago I found out that he was cheating on me, so I went out and cheated on him to get back at him. I met a guy and we started just having sex (at first he didnt know I had a boyfriend, but we decided to just be friends with casual sex). Recently, the guy who I was sleeping with found out about my boyfriend, and he broke it off with me. Im so heartbroken. I developed feelings for him, but he didnt care for me because it was just casual sex. Now I dont know what to do because Im definatly I love my boyfriend but I cant get over my lover.

Hearbroken

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by tangendar
Monday, September 19, 2005 at 12:23:24

Reply:
she is alwayes on the phone, internet, letter writting and meeting out with the other men. she says they are only friends. but I have seen a few letters from one of her friends asking her to divorce. mentioneng about her demand to sleep with, she still refuses to say so. she says nothing has happened. shall I believe it. moreover she is so suspicious about any other people saying all of them have love affair! I have lost my trust.

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by Candace
Friday, October 28, 2005 at 21:50:38

Reply:
We are looking for a 1 to 5 year old child to adopt. We are home study ready and our adoption lawyer is ready for us to locate a child. We have a 5 year old little boy who really wants a sister. PLEASE help us look! If you know of a situation, PLEASE contact us at the email above. God bless!!
Candace, George and Keefer

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by Diane
Sunday, October 30, 2005 at 04:52:50

Reply:
I have been seeing this guy, knowing that he was due to get married.He got quite serious quite quickly and now he says he cant be without me. He went ahead with the wedding due to family pressure but last night he broke down and told me he's in love with me and that i'm the only person who makes him feel alive.he wants me to bear with him til he sorts the 'situation' out cos i'm the only thing keeping him going. i hate seeing how unhappy he is but I dont know if i can take the wait. Dont want to push him away by putting pressure on him to walk out as i guess its gotta be his decision but dont want to keep quiet incase he thinks i dont want him. this is killing me...dont know what to do for the best

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by Affairs hurt
Sunday, December 11, 2005 at 02:49:54

Reply:
It's weird how all the advice seems to be leaning in the same direction; affairs hurt all of those involved. To anyone who is tempted to have an afair should be prepared for heartache, always wandering what is going to happen, feeling alone most of the time, except for that one hour that he makes for you. The longer he strings you along makes it hurt worse and makes you have a lower self esteem. Married men who cheat are not worth the pain it will cause you in the end. If you were meant to be together then maybe one day it will happen. If you like to be hurt and feel used then by all means do it. Love yourself and your well being!!!! Don't get involved cheated on his wife so of course he is going to do it over and over again!

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by maddy
Wednesday, December 14, 2005 at 22:12:55

Reply:
I think you should break up with him and find someone
who will give your 100 percent of themselves to you
only.

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by Jan
Monday, December 19, 2005 at 20:08:05

Reply:
Actually I can't see why you woman want to mess with a married man. You are only wrecking a marriage. Shame on you

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by GINA
Wednesday, January 11, 2006 at 18:16:27

Reply:
READING THIS SITE HAS GIVEN ME A NEW LOOK ON MY RELATIONSHIP WITH A MARRIED MAN.THE STORIES SOUND THE SAME.HE WILL NOT LEAVE HER.WHY WOULD HE?I AM JUST FUN FOR HIM.I MAKE HIM FEEL ALIVE AGAIN.HE AND HIS WIFE DO NOT HAVE SEX.HE FEELS SO RELAXED WITH ME.HE CAN TALK TO ME ABOUT ANYTHING.SOUNDS FAMILIAR?I FEEL FOOLISH FOR THINKING HE WAS MY SOULMATE.IF HE WAS GOING TO LEAVE HER HE WOULD HAVE DONE IT A LONG TIME AGO.DON'T GET ME WRONG I LOVE THIS MAN.I THINK ABOUT HIM ALL THE TIME AND WANT TO BE WITH HIM BUT GET REAL WE COULD NEVER LAST IF HE LEFT HER.WE COULD NEVER TRUST EACH OTHER.THINK ABOUT IT HOW COULD WE?IT SHOWS THAT WE BOTH CHEAT.HE WILL NOT LEAVE HER BUT I AM LEAVING HIM.I'M TAKING MY POWER BACK.I WORK WITH HIM EVERYDAY BUT I WILL FEEL THE POWER OF GETTING MYSELF BACK.THANKS TO THIS SITE I NO LONGER FEEL LIKE A LAME DUCK.GOODBYE TO MY MARRIED GUY!!!!!!

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by ricki
Sunday, January 15, 2006 at 18:00:59

Reply:
wow, what a sight, it has given me insight in my own thoughts and feelings, i tryed to bottle up, I'm married and had been having an affair for 2 years, broke it off, then found out i was pregnant and no idea who the father is....
im four months pregnant and not sure what i should do, im scarred ill lose everything when i tell my husband the truth.

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by Phil
Saturday, January 21, 2006 at 23:53:03

Reply:
I am going to lay it out to everyone that is having an affair on their spouse. SHAME ON YOU!! You have betrayed the greatest bond a human can have. You certainly would not want it to happen to you, but it's okay to allow it to happen to somebody else. There are so many people out there that are deserving of a great mate. YOU ARE NOT!

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by linds
Sunday, January 22, 2006 at 04:12:41

Reply:
I went through an ugly divorce with my piece of s#$* husbamd in September. A few weeks later I ended up having an affair with a man i work with and now we are closer than ever. he has become my best friend. i know he will never leave his wife. but its always great to wish!!!

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by alexia
Wednesday, February 01, 2006 at 21:08:43

Reply:
almost 3 years ago i met this man on the internet ( not a wise choice ) and he lived in the same village as me which was unusaual for where i live. we clicked instantly. and we met at a bar for the first time. but had the timing wrong. well later on i found out that he was engaged and had gotten married that weekend. found out from the announcement in the local paper. i was upset that he had lied to me. And a few weeks later he comes back online and tells me he's sorry and stuff and so we met again. so for 3 years we saw each other and i moved away, his wife found emails that we had sent to each other. called me at my aunts house and left a message. last summer i confessed to his wife that he and i had been seeing each other. but didnt confess everything because he wanted to still be with his wife and kids. shes kicked him out of the house alot but he's loves her to much to leave. he kept leadng me on and playing with my emotions. i knew it was wrong and he would say oh you dont have to but then i would feel pressured so i would give in. I moved back to the county a few months ago. and i told his wife that he had been coming to my place to see me, but not have sex. and he didnt want me to tell the whole truth cuz of losing his wife and kids. so she and i started talking. i said i was sorry and we started becoming friends. but he still would tell me he's horny and we stil had sex. him still playing with my mind. im 25 and have lived my life basically alone. have been a loner ever since back in grade school. i guess i was just looking for someone to need me even though i knew it was wrong. well, yesterday i confessed to her finally that we had been sleeping together. i felt guilty and didnt want to lie and carry the lie anymore. i know i hurt her soo much and i dont think i can ever forgive myself for that. and it hurt me as well because i lost a really good friend, even though she was his wife, she and i were soo alike and both of us we're going thru depression. im extremely mad at him. because, he got mad at me for telling her the truth. when he should have been the one. i know this post is a little lenghty i have a few mental so it takes abit for to explain. i wish i never met him, i wish i could have found the way to say no. like when i was raped. im sorry for hurting her and i wish i could get the friendship back with her. but i know its impossible. i also confessed to my parents and one of my moms close friends. im very suicidal at this point becuase i have disappointed myself so much. and feel i let every1 down. i deserve it and deserve to be pucnished and be alone

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by alexia
Wednesday, February 01, 2006 at 21:17:57

Reply:
i dont expect anyone to feel sorry for me. and now he is putting all blame on me. he always would lead me to believe there would be something more. he led me on. then i found out he was cheating w/ another girl. now got her pregnant and has another son. he already as 2 kids w/ his wife. i dont know what would have happened if i would have gotten pregnant, im glad i didnt. i was selfish i thought i could not feel so lonely if i was with him but then he kept on leading me on and saying he was horny all the time. i know now i will never get involved iwth another man. ive been hurt so manytimes so maybe i was asking for it. and i dont understand because everything happens for a reason and everything has a cause and effect sinario. why did this happen? why did this have to happen to me? i thought he was my best friend but he's just like all the rest. and i guess so am i. i will never forgive myself. i know the wives out there who have been cheated on prolly dont care. i made a mistake, i fessed up to the truth. does that mean anything?

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by Bighteyes
Thursday, February 02, 2006 at 17:41:05

Reply:
I have been invovled with a married man for a little over a year. I had broke it off a few times. I have just recently told him good luck with his future. I now miss him really alot. I wanted this affair to work and I beleived that when he told me that he was going to leave his wife that he was. I asked if a few questions as to if and when he leaves his wife and I think I scared him away because I have not heard from him in amolst a month. I still really love himand will always love him no matter what and I am just hoping some day he will come back to me. It's like the saying is you love something set it free if it was meant to be it will come back to you if it doesn't it never was meant to be. I have always beleived that saying. I may be living in a fantasy world and my friends always told me to leave him alone but i JUST CAN'T BECAUSE I REALLY DO LOVE HIM WITH ALL MY HEART AND ALWAYS WILL.

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by Phil
Friday, February 03, 2006 at 22:06:39

Reply:
Alexia: just got done reading your post. Just think about this. My wife of 14 years cheated on me, apparently several times. We are now divorced. But I am so happy that she found someone that is making her happy. You cannot go through life feeling depressed and guilty. Trust in God and that everything happens for a reason. When you finally put your trust and life in Gods hands, everything is okay. You will truely learn what it means to be free. It definately appears that you have been hurt alot. DO NOT let the actions of a few dictate what happens to the many. I too have been truely hurt, not only by my x-wife, but several girls after that. I was depressed for the longest time until something just made me snap out of it. I am very fortunate for EVERYTHING I have been blessed with. If that idiot blames you, then I have one word for you to describe him, COWARD. He is NOT GOOD ENOUGH FOR YOU! Now remember, pray and believe in GOD.

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by Incognito
Monday, February 06, 2006 at 22:08:16

Reply:
I have too been (well sort of) involved with a married man. We met over the internet and I got the same story as most of these other women: they're in an unhappy marriage and "want" to get divorced. For weeks we'd talk for hours on end with each other and shared everything. Then of course this led to the "I love you" part and the whole nine yards. We live 1000 miles or more away from each other and had yet to meet (but we've seen pics of each other). He has 2 kids and also said he's "only in it for the kids." Another common line. I was blinded by his smooth talking, but now I realize how stupid I was to let any of this turn into something! I disrespected my family and my upbringing because I know I've been taught SO much better than that. He played with my emotions and SAID he was GOING TO LEAVE but always had excuses such as the kids and taxes (that one was pretty lame, might I add). I feel horrible for his wife, for she found out and I had several online confrontations with her. Not only for her, but also their kids. NEVER EVER GET INVOLVED WITH A MARRIED MAN!!! I'm sorry for what I have done and know that I can never be forgiven. I was the ACCOMPLICE to this married man, but no longer will I live with such a title. I have WALKED AWAY knowing how much better a life I can live w/o him! I told him to repair his relationship with his wife (he told me he didn't want to before I broke it off with him). Most of the time, these men will NEVER leave because of the stability and security that is provided for them at home. Like it's been stated before, these men live TWO, 2, lives! MARRIAGE IS A SACRED GROUND! Never impose like I have or like anyone else has, for that matter. I suggest that ALL the women who are in such relationships WALK AWAY (or RUN for that matter) because the outcome will never be good. You WILL end up broken hearted, but like someone told me "It's better to end a bad relationship now then to let it further making it harder." It WILL be hard to walk away, but you CAN get over it and move on. It seems impossible but it's not. I feel so much better now that I'm out of this and no longer will I force an emotional burden upon me. DO NOT let yourself to be smooth talked by these men (or even women) into intruding into a marriage. Show yourself some respect! Take a stand in the RIGHT thing to do, and most of all, walking away will be the best for you! You have to do what's best for yourselves. Once a cheater, always a cheater (most of the time).

I wish everyone the best of luck in life.

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by alexia
Sunday, February 12, 2006 at 05:55:26

Reply:
His wife and I are friends again. She realizes that she cant be mad at me because I am the one that told the truth. She's been asking me questions about our affair and ive told her because she said even though it hurts she needs to know. Finally told her, though, that its been going in for 3 years. Her husband ( who i had the affair with ) is mad at me because I didnt talk to him first b4 telling her and he said to me that "you dont think that ive wanted to tell the truth too" then that got me to thinking that if he wanted to tell the truth soo many times why didnt he? Me confessing to his wife was something I had to do. so she and I are friends again and have been spending time with her and her kids. Although he told her that he doesnt want her talking to me anymore and I asked him the other night if it was okay with him that she and I are friends and he said thats fine. so he's lying again. plus he asked if he could come over and I said yes but not for sex. and he got a lil mad i think because I said NO. it felt really good to say no. and i told him i cant believe he would ask that after all that has happened. In the end I realized that my friendship with Jennifer (his wife) was more important to me than he was. thats another reason why i had to tell the truth.

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by stephanie
Thursday, March 16, 2006 at 22:48:13

Reply:
Having an affair with a married man is a totally confusing situation. I know that I love him and I know that he loves me. His wife and I live in the same town, and he just moved out of state. He wants me to move with him, and yes I have been to see him. His father completely supports us, my mother has concerns. I am very worried about what I am going to do. I know that he is not trustworthy. I wish I knew how to quit him. I love him and I believe that he might be the one person I am suppose to be with. We are so dependent on eachother, and everyone around knows is. His uncle here continually supports us being together. How do you leave someone that you love with all you heart? How can you convince yourself that even though you love eachother, it will never work? Loving someone and being loved by someone is what life is about. How can you walk away from it? Four years later, I think I want to find a way. But I don't know how.

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by burgergirl
Friday, March 31, 2006 at 00:15:42

Reply:
people actually go through what i am?..........i am 26 and have two children with my high school sweetheart... we divorced 3 years ago.. i started dating my best friend who is also my boss. He was single at the time. We parted ways for some time and he got married. He now has 3 kids. well he now has 4. A month a i gave birth to a little girl. My best friend was upset when i first told him but learned to accept it.. I on the other hand have began having problems with this situation. He has seen his daughter every other weekend and when she was in the hospital... He sees his daughter when i bring her too his house. No one knows or suspects anything has been going on.. I hate the fact that i have become friends with his wife and children.. Our children love to play together.. his daughter and my son inocently pretend they are bf and gf. It kills me everytime i see these kids that they cant know she is there sister. I have loved this guy for a very long time... both have told me they stay together for the kids although never in a million years would his wife cheat on him.. I can relate to what everyone says i know he loves me as much as i love him. He did everything for me while i was pregnant for our daughter.. even now he would do anything.. its like its a whole other world when were together. We have two seperate lives. i have thought about calling it quits but i miss him so much and then i think about our daughter. she deserves to know her dad.. even i she cant know that its him. i always wondered if anyone knew what i am going through.. what can i do?

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by burgergirl
Friday, March 31, 2006 at 00:25:52

Reply:
people actually go through what i am?..........i am 26 and have two children with my high school sweetheart... we divorced 3 years ago.. i started dating my best friend who is also my boss. He was single at the time. We parted ways for some time and he got married. He now has 3 kids. well he now has 4. A month a i gave birth to a little girl. My best friend was upset when i first told him but learned to accept it.. I on the other hand have began having problems with this situation. He has seen his daughter every other weekend and when she was in the hospital... He sees his daughter when i bring her too his house. No one knows or suspects anything has been going on.. I hate the fact that i have become friends with his wife and children.. Our children love to play together.. his daughter and my son inocently pretend they are bf and gf. It kills me everytime i see these kids that they cant know she is there sister. I have loved this guy for a very long time... both have told me they stay together for the kids although never in a million years would his wife cheat on him.. I can relate to what everyone says i know he loves me as much as i love him. He did everything for me while i was pregnant for our daughter.. even now he would do anything.. its like its a whole other world when were together. We have two seperate lives. i have thought about calling it quits but i miss him so much and then i think about our daughter. she deserves to know her dad.. even i she cant know that its him. i always wondered if anyone knew what i am going through.. what can i do?

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by Trisha
Friday, April 28, 2006 at 08:13:55

Reply:
I believe that you both are doing an injustice to all of the children involved, not only that but to his wife also,all involved have the right to know the truth. you make him seem like this great guy, but in all actualitly all he is doing is playing games, not just with his wife and children, but with you also. I think that he needs to be honest with his wife and let her decide what she would like to do with the situation. she is being held back from what her true destiny might be. and you yourself are being held back to. you are in love with him, right? and you say he is in love with you also right? well then if all that is true. his wife should be free'd to find someone that will love her and that she can love too. you both are being very selfish. I'm sorry if I am coming off as a lil to harsh, but asked for the advice, and the truth is life can be a cruel hard world, and you are the one that has to find your own inner strenghth to get through this life, with hopefully a little dignity, and happiness. and it seems to me you are not even thinking about what happens when you are face to face with God. ooooouuuuch! look, you need to sit down and talk to him about this situation, if he is this great guy, and you guys are in love. then you both need to tell the wife. so that you can move on, and live your life. and so she can live hers. and all of your children can live thiers.

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by burgergirl
Sunday, April 30, 2006 at 12:01:43

Reply:
Ladies i know how you feel... i just had a baby with the "married man" my best friend the father of my beautiful daughter... I love him.. We have worked together for many years. he was good to me while i was pregnant and everything.. since she has been born things have went down hill. we dont see eachother that much and he rearly calls anymore. he has called twice in three weeks. ladies please spare yourselves the pain... once your start acting in some shape or form like the wife your just as much history as she is... We love eachother yes but most men wont leave because 1) its convient and 2) the kids 3) child support and maybe even spousal support. if you love them sometimes you have to let them go...... also having a baby by him hurts cause she looks more like him everyday... so i still see him every day through her

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by burgergirl
Sunday, April 30, 2006 at 12:02:43

Reply:
Ladies i know how you feel... i just had a baby with the "married man" my best friend the father of my beautiful daughter... I love him.. We have worked together for many years. he was good to me while i was pregnant and everything.. since she has been born things have went down hill. we dont see eachother that much and he rearly calls anymore. he has called twice in three weeks. ladies please spare yourselves the pain... once your start acting in some shape or form like the wife your just as much history as she is... We love eachother yes but most men wont leave because 1) its convient and 2) the kids 3) child support and maybe even spousal support. if you love them sometimes you have to let them go...... also having a baby by him hurts cause she looks more like him everyday... so i still see him every day through her

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by burgergirl
Sunday, April 30, 2006 at 12:03:40

Reply:
Ladies i know how you feel... i just had a baby with the "married man" my best friend the father of my beautiful daughter... I love him.. We have worked together for many years. he was good to me while i was pregnant and everything.. since she has been born things have went down hill. we dont see eachother that much and he rearly calls anymore. he has called twice in three weeks. ladies please spare yourselves the pain... once your start acting in some shape or form like the wife your just as much history as she is... We love eachother yes but most men wont leave because 1) its convient and 2) the kids 3) child support and maybe even spousal support. if you love them sometimes you have to let them go...... also having a baby by him hurts cause she looks more like him everyday... so i still see him every day through her

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by Tina Garland
Thursday, June 15, 2006 at 20:14:49

Reply:
Hello to all of my ladies. I'm in the same position as youi. But my outlook on this matter is different. I have known my friend for over 20 years. I was 25 years old when we first met. I still recall all of the wonderful times we shared together . In all of the years not one time my friend did anything to disrespect me or himself or wife. We always flirted with one another but never took it a step further because at that time he felt I was too young for him. I kept in contact with him over the years and I'm 46. I made love to him for my very first time and I never do anything to bring shame to something so beautiful. I would never ask him to leave his wife for me. What I love and admire is our friendship and the time we spend together will always be special, it's not just sexual. We have a special bond and a spiritual connection I complete him as he do I.

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by burgergirl
Wednesday, June 21, 2006 at 22:00:23

Reply:
Well i think things are better between us since our daughter arrived and we stopped sleeping together. We still have that bond and respect for eachother but its different now. I have two sons from my previous marriage with my best friend and high school sweetheart. Now after my divorce and another person who has been a good friend from high school i have a beautiful daughter.. She is amazing... I am so thankful even though its not the best situation that i have her and my sons.. I am thankful we became the best of friends and lovers because she is the most amazing thing we created out of our love. I know it is not right because he is married but i am thankful for him and our relationship...

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by renee
Wednesday, August 23, 2006 at 16:47:28

Reply:
Ok so I'm 19 yrs old and im starting to build a relationship with a 31 yr old married man. Things are progressing into also a sexual relationship....i know that he will never leave his wife or his 3 kids for that matter and usually i also wld judge other ppl for being the "otherwomen" but at some point in all of this he makes me feel great and special and some say it is wrong but i say no one is to say whats wrong and what is right bc you really dont know untill you are put into that situation I am enjoying this right now and if i get hurt i do but im happy

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by Cammy
Thursday, February 22, 2007 at 11:40:03

Reply:
Do whatever you want... it's yoru choice..

At the gates of heaven you will be judged.

Keep on sinning if you want.

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by Starseed
Saturday, February 24, 2007 at 07:30:35

Reply:
There are times in everyone's life when they miss the mark. Be it in friendship, parenting, communicating, and yes, relationships. I find in those times, that I am most hardest on myself. It matters not what others think of you, but what you think of yourself. Who is to say what is right or wrong for you. YOU are the only one who can create YOUR life...move forward...and learn from the past. No one is really here to judge you. We all just want to help.

By simply asking the questions we do, we may begin our first step to our awareness and to our journey of the heart. We all do what we believe is right. We all come from different places on earth, have different families, have different experiences, have different ideas, and have different spiritual beliefs. All of this is right for each of us at the present time. However, there is one thing that we all have in common...it is that we ALL great beings of light and God loves ALL of us equally, no matter if we miss the mark or not.

Often times we find ourselves so deep in a situation that it is difficult for us to see clearly and understand what is happening around us. Once it is recognized, everyone has the power within themselves to change and become what they want to be...to learn...to grow. It is only by taking the first step forward that we can begin to understand who we truly are.

May your first step be filled with light.
As Above
So Below

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by coralbea
Saturday, February 24, 2007 at 22:23:23

Reply:
I have never understood why it is that affairs are so "romantic" Firstly there is so much stress involved running around not getting caught. Ok that must be the thrill and the sex must be great right??. Is there gulit in the relationship about not wanting to hurt anyone.? Oh and what about lying?? He lies to his wife How many lies does he tell you??? Well a relationship based around lies that is not healthy for a start cause you know it will come back and bite you later, what goes around You know? Would there also not be the fact that you must be lonely on the nights your beloved is with his family?
Oh and what about the whole "sharing "thing?? like bodily fluids??? MMMM that must be fun knowing that he is sharing with you both??
I also wonder who gets the best deal out of these "affairs"? The wife sits at home having kept the home fires burning so to speak and the kids are all happy and fed etc she is waiting patiently for hubby to come home from a 'Business trip " or a late night at the office, concerned that he is working himself to hard and Oh yes feeling GUILTY that she can not contribute very much financially and the whole burden lies with him.
He comes home to a home cooked meal cosy house kisses the wife after having sex with the mistress and then jumps into bed to probably have sex with the wife. Meanwhile the mistress is home probalby still in the after throws of passion thinking about him and how wonderful he is and not even considering that as soon as He left her place he forgot all about her he got what he wanted right?. MMMM who is having his cake and eating it too??? What a really clever man and somneone you really want to share the rest of your life with yeah?
Once a bolting horse always a bolting horse!!
All I can say is that singles who have such romantic affairs with married men or women must have a very low opinion of themselves and absolutley no respect for them selves either. Oh and one more thing Be careful Karma Bites!!!
I really hope you find your self and fall in love with you be true to yourself

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by Angelblessings
Friday, March 30, 2007 at 09:17:02

Reply:
hi Melissa you said im just looking to make friends and gain someinsight from someone with a different veiw. you stated :im having an affair with a married man and i have a boyfriend, i,ve know the man im having an affair for 2summers at work. i,m having feelings for him and i feel lost. i wonder if it fate and we supposed to meet. i know he,s not real happy in his marriage and im not in my relationship. this is why i,m lost just wanting to be loved and wonder if there is a kind and loving man for me. i wonder if anyone has been in this pridictment. I have a conclusion to your problem. Human man cannot alone make you happy you have to make yourself happy I know it is hard situition to deal with but you will heal in this problem tell satan to get out of this issue and ask Jesus to come in. That is the christian way of doing things. I am going to become an author and I am currently righting a book. About marriages that are struggling and how to get God to steer the wheel and to lead you in the direction of the moral marriage a godly marriage. In this bible verse it says: John 17:3 "Now this is eternal life: that they may know you, the only true God, and Jesus Christ, whom you have sent."Romans 8:6-8 "The mind of sinful man is death, but the mind controlled by the Spirit is life and peace; the sinful mind is hostile to God. It does not submit to God's law, nor can it do so. Those controlled by the sinful nature cannot please God." Look you are in adultry get out of there while you can be true to yourself be true to God the father in heaven be true to christ confess your sins and say a heartfelt prayer. And you will see that Jesus never gave up on you and that he was there all the time. I am just 21 but I learned a lot from walking with God. I am here on a mission a mission to teach those women that God never gave up on them and he wants you back. Hun you and I know deep down we are sinners but if you look at that cross of Jesus you say I am sorry and find yourself and Jesus will help you in those issues it may take a while but he is an awesome God. Yes he is. :) Oh and find a therapist to help you to I am not being mean I am being helpful I am in therapy I have been for 2 years now. I have been in therapy for depression and you know it really helps to talk about your problems. Find a good therapist in your local area Melissa.

Love and Light
Jacqueline

RE: lost and falling in love
Posted by Starseed
Wednesday, November 14, 2007 at 19:04:46

Reply:
A gentle reminder here that no one ever "falls in love".........they rise in love back to god.

May all here find their anima / animus within


Name:
Email:
Subject:
Reply:

[Top of Page]